"Marriage is not a noun; it's a verb. It's something you do. It's the way you love your partner every day" - Barbara De Angelis

The Do-Verb of a Marriage

Last night, I was talking with Mark about the disguise in a blessing from the ever so popular quote of "It's a Blessing in Disguise". Mark said that it is truly based on perceived outcome in the fix-it form. It requires an action to unveil the disguise and to truly see the blessing underneath the current state of negativity. I'll admit, when Mark first told me that he was being laid off, sheer terror of the unknown took over. Once the emotions came and went, we both agreed that we were determined to find the right in all of this. I stayed home from my volunteer job that next day and found 65 jobs on Monster.com for him to apply for based on the parameters we had discussed. Mark stayed up until midnight applying for the ones which he was suited for. We talked, we planned, and we changed plans based on the changing of circumstances. It was the first time in a long time where we allowed things to change and where we looked at both the big picture and finite details in our decision making. We made an assessment of our current finances, made a bucket list of what we wanted to see and do for the last three weeks of being in the UK, and then made those two coincide. We allowed ourselves to be blatantly honest with one another on what we wanted and what we didn't want in our jobs, homes, and lives. Every action unraveled the layers of the disguise a little bit more. From my eight hours on Monster.com, I was able to better understand more of what my husband's job entails- what he knows and what he does. We communicated futuristic ideals in a fiercly, blatantly honest style revealing a lot of unsaid things that needed to be said. It may be a blessing in disguise, but it takes action in the do-verb style to make the disguise a blessing.